Wednesday, January 14, 2009

I just learned that a very dear friend of mine.....

My Sister, Terry, called me a few moments ago. She informed me that a very dear friend of mine, John Bean, passed away yesterday. Today is my Father's birthday or would be if he had not passed away 37 years ago.

I don't have any more info at this time, except that John was to have passed away yesterday from cancer. I never knew he had cancer, he never said a word to me.

John and I dated for several years, until he moved to Southern Missouri for a job. But we kept in touch. I always thought that he and I would eventually get back together. While we dated he had asked me to marry him, and I said yes, but it just never happened. John and I had a lot of fun together, and I will really miss him. He was a very unique person, one-of-a-kind. He's the one that taught me to go tubing down the river, and he's the one that took me deer hunting. He and his Brother would make the most delicious deer bratwurst....oh so yummy. John loved to watch lightening storms. He had a small camper that we would lay in for hours watching the lightening storms light up the sky through all the windows in the camper.

I had sent him a Christmas card, but it was returned to me a couple weeks ago. I didn't understand why. John had a nickname for me. He called me "Hide", as in a deer hide.

Time for me to take a break and go cry a spell.


  1. BrendaLea,
    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Hope your memories of your time with him make you smile and if you cry that the tears are happy ones.

  2. I'm sorry for your loss. Perhaps he didn't say anything because he didn't want to burden you. I beleive that we all meet people in previous and future lives and that those we have dear to us in this one will come back in the next one. I hope this is true for you. My husband and I knew the moment we set eyes on each other that we "knew" each other. We finish each others sentences and enjoy time together more then being with others. I hope we die together so neither of us has to do without the other. I hope you'll be ok. If nothing else at least he's not in any pain.

  3. Thank You Cindy and Anonymous for your kinds words. I hope I do see John in the future. He will be miss by me so very much and many others.

  4. My high school sweetie and I still talk, even though its been 25 years since we were a couple. Its like you say, something inside always assumes you'll get back together. I am very sorry for his passing, I can't imagine how that would feel. My best to you...

  5. Thank You Robin,

    Cherish the time spent with your high school sweetheart...whether in person or over the phone or just never knows.

  6. Wow, so sorry!
    I am going to make you smile here though, I am happy to meet someone who is not afraid to say "deer hunting" and you took the opportunity to ty it. I live in southern Maine but from a couple hours north. What a difference. Very liberal in my area and it's not easy. My hubby is a wonderful hunter...even finally got his moose this year after a 20yr wait on a drawing of his name. Getting in touch with nature, I'm sure you found, is the biggest part of being outside walking around.
    Sounds like you had a great person to share that with.
    God Bless,


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